Boy-girl relationships

    
Some of us are with people we truly care about, some of us settle for a desired set of circumstances, others seek out companionship out of fear of loneliness and the rest are single. I'm one of the single ones and have been for about a year now. I have a pretty cool view on relationships because I've been in a few, observed a few that have worked and a few that haven't. What makes me believe I have the inside scoop is my ability to see the outcome of situations based of patterns of behaviour and the overall compatibility of people based on nothing more than my own reasoning. I've coined many phrases and quotes in my time but none more relevant than "a subservient broad will get her controlling dude, the weak willed will find their strong, the assholes will get with the bitches - so to all the assholes and bitches I wish you good luck." I find that there's a lot of truth to this and you can tell in any 'good' relationship that the 2 people have dynamics that balance one another out. The bad relationships are a result of an imbalance in the dynamic between 2 people that can't be remedied by anything other than finding someone that better suits your style. In every situation there must be aggression and digression and it cannot always be the same person being the aggressor or the digressor or the dynamic just creates an unhealthy living situation. I'll give you an example of a couple that really work but I'll change their names for obvious reasons. The man, let's call him Shigadoo,  is a very strong-willed person, somewhat successful with the potential to do great things if the right set of circumstances come along. The female, let's call her Euphegeniah, is not quite as strong willed but she has a very strong sense of self and is on her own path to success. What makes this couple even better is that in certain situations Shigadoo is the boss and Euphegeniah will gracefully accept that she is less adept when it comes to that and in others she's the boss and he concedes but they clearly have a mutual respect and a great knowledge of  each other's strengths and weaknesses. Together they can tackle pretty much anything and they do it with very little friction between them in an almost symbiotic manner. This couple can create an amazing future and an amazing legacy. Now I'll give you an example of a failed relationship and the factors that got them there. Let's use me as an example so it can be easier for me to explain. I was once in a relationship with a very strong-willed female who was ambitious by nature and always straight to the point. Here I was as an equally strong-willed, ambitious, straight to the point kind of guy and our dynamic clashed horribly. On one hand the physical aspect of the relationship was great because we were both go-getters but when it came to agreeing on even the smallest things we couldn't. There would be weeks of drama with only days of peace and no matter what anyone says you can't just 'make it work' when it can't be fixed. I admit I'm not the easiest person to get along with because my personality is somewhat overbearing but I'm not a complete asshole either. Same with her. I now know the exact kind of guy she needs and I have an idea of the type of girl I need as well. She needs a person to play the support role and so do I.
     Dudes worry too much about how many guys a girl slept with when that does not make her any less fertile than she was before so you all need to stop being hung up on shit like that. Girls, same goes for you. Who cares how many girls your man slept with before he met you. The past is the past because it's not now and it's not the future. Being hung up on dumb shit makes you crazy and pathetic. Girls, if you don't like being treated like shit PLEASE don't go out with dudes that treat you like shit because it'll be your own fault when he takes you out, makes you pay then slaps you up for looking at another dude. Dudes, if she seems like a stage 5 clinger and you like to party then don't get with her because she'll fuck up your flex. She wants a dude that pays attention to ONLY her. We need to start filtering the assholes and bitches we talk to and date so that the ones we meet can be supplemental to all of our strengths and weaknesses. As for arranged marriages, they work for the most part  because men in those cultures are the controller and the females are subservient. We live in motherfucking Canada though so this shit doesn't happen on the regular and as the voice of Tamil 20 somethings in Toronto I need to let that be known. Women please for the love of God stop going out with dudes who chop you on facebook and get out into the real world for real men. Men, it isn't just about the booty and the titties. This broad should motivate you to be a better man, be good at the things that you're not and she has to know how to tie a tie. Regardless of the gender there should be 2 constants in any relationship for there to be a legitimate chance at awesomeness. #1 being this person should not kick you while you're down but instead lift you up and help you get a grip of things. #2 is this person should never bring you down when you're up and instead should support you, praise you and motivate you to keep trudging on. If the goal of every couple in the world was to create a legacy then we'd have amazing relationships and a very low divorce rate. When the goals start becoming things that neither can control  then shit gets tricky and people get frustrated. Too many relationships fail when the sparks die, the looks fade and all you're left with is the real person that you didn't get to know because you were too busy worrying about the things that don't matter. Conversation is huge because when you're sitting in your rocking chair at the age of 80 across from your aged wife, the spark is gone, your libido is shot to hell you're still going to need companionship, a warm smile and memories that can last you the rest of your days. Goals matter because, without them, the excitement of the next day will become nothing but dull, pointless nonsense. Intimacy is important because it'll help you live happy, live longer and live stronger. With that I'm done with this post but I hope you got what I was trying to say and I wish you all the happiness that the world has to offer.
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How are we so different?

  
It's only sexist when men do it. A woman chops her husband's dick off and throws it in the garbage disposal and people turn around trying to figure out what the dude did to get such a punishment. "Oh, he must have cheated on her or beat her. He probably deserved it." Are you kidding me? They made jokes about it on female daytime talk shows on many US and Canadian networks. Imagine now that a woman got her tits chopped off or had her genitals mutilated in a similar fashion. Would the general reaction be the same? Would they say that she probably deserved it because of something she did or would it be received with horror and disbelief? That something so atrocious can happen in today's society? Double motherfucking standard. I'm not saying all women were saying that or felt that way. I'm also not saying that women always play the victim. What I am saying is that there is an obvious double standard in this 'equality" thing you all have been fighting for in this past 2500 years. There is a way to stop perpetuating it and that's to stop crying about all the little things and look at reason.
   Men in a family situation more often that not are the ones that take out the trash, cut the grass, shovel the snow, move the furniture, fix the car, yadda yadda yadda. Women for the most part will not willingly do these activities because 1. They are not conditioned to do them, 2. It's physically more difficult than it is for most men. That being said, I don't think women are incapable of such things I just think that this is the way things are done and have been done for a while. Men take on some of the duties of a household and women should supplement the chores by taking on some of the remaining duties such as cooking, cleaning, etc. If the woman is the one doing all the strenuous physical labour then there should be no reason for the man not to cook and clean as to supplement the chores. I HATE females that say "Oh, I am not cooking for any man because I'm nobody's slave/bitch." Let's assess this for a second. I love cooking so maybe I'm the wrong guy to be saying this but cooking is fun and easy. That role should probably be shared. It should not be like this shameful activity that oppresses women to do. In this day and age where men and women's work habits and salaries are more equal than ever I EXPECT those chores to be shared but when a woman feels like it's this horrible thing when a man asks her to do that is completely misguided and frankly it's a bit of a turn off.
     Let's be real for a second and get some of the issues on the table. I'm sorry ladies but men ARE physically stronger, obviously there's always the exception but I don't work on exceptions, I work on majority and that's the fucking truth. We have an inherent role as the protector, the guardian and the provider. This is not society it is genetics. We're born with a larger upper torso, more muscle mass and an ability to overcome fear is hardwired into our brains to compensate for certain things lacking in our female counterparts. Females, however, are hardwired a different way. They are more nurturing, compassionate, thoughtful, resourceful because they must give birth and raise a child. Society is one dumb motherfucker for teaching you guys that life is everything but for the repopulation of this planet. Let's take 5 steps back and strip away all the bullshit and get to the root of this. I am a man, you are a woman and when we put our parts together we make babies. I teach my son how to make money, protect himself and be healthy while my wife teaches my daughter how to sustain herself, how to protect herself and how to be a good mother. We must use the strengths that we're born with to find a suitable mate, create offspring and ensure the survival of our lineage. So all the people bitching about defined roles of genders and garbage like that are falling into this retarded trap which is extremely counterproductive. Cooking and cleaning does NOT make you a slave to men. Infact it helps the familial situation and reduces the burden on your spouse so why wouldn't you want to do that. I'd do it in a heartbeat if that's the way it had to be to ensure that my kids survived and thrived.
    As far as I know we are equals. Our roles are only different because we are physically different but if women want equality then they should treat the situation with the same respect men are asked to treat it with. NO DOUBLE STANDARDS. I love women, you guys are awesome with your vaginas and such but if I hear your bitching about some dumb shit I'm gonna let it be known. With that, I am done with this topic but please check out the rest of this blog and check out the link below.
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eating is cool

I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada which is quite possibly one of the most vibrant cities in the world and has a ton of places to eat great food. I've had the opportunity to eat things from everywhere so I consider myself a bit of a foodie. This is a list of 9 awesome restaurants to go to in no particular order along with why I go there.

My favorite steak sandwich EVER can be found at Bistro 243. When I go for a steak sandwich I want great bread and great meat. Anything you can add to it to enhance the experience is awesome and these guys do it the best. Fresh Artisan bread, the meat is seasoned perfectly and extremely tender, classic sauteed onion and mushroom toppings but the kicker for sure is that homemade garlic aioli. It's ridiculous how fucking awesome this sandwich is.

You can't go wrong with hand crafted, organic pizza with tons of insane toppings and countless amounts of combinations. If you can put tandoori chicken, mango, basil and fresh goat cheese on a pizza for like $20 then it's Definitely the place to go. MAGIC OVEN dude. Go there.

I'm a guy that stays away from sweets for the most part UNLESS you can make me the most decadent pecan butter tart or creme brulee. If you like custard, bread pudding, or vanilla bean ice cream then you'll love creme brulee and the best in Toronto hands down is at The Beacher Cafe on Queen St E in the beaches. They use organic cane sugar and real vanilla bean to create this extremely velvety treat and I promise you that you will not be let down. I still have dreams about it.

If you're like me and you love grass-fed meat cooked to a perfect medium-rare, served with organic seasonal vegetable and topped with herb butter then you gotta try the 10oz Rib-eye at Mill St. Brew Pub. The rib-eye is for sure the juiciest, most succulent steak you'll ever eat and the chefs at this joint will put the guys at The Keg to shame (although the keg does have some damn good steaks). This is the place to be if you're looking for locally sourced meat, veggies, and beer. I always said that if I found a place that served a spectacular steak and had Tankhouse on tap that I would eat and drink there until I died. This just so happens to be the place. CHECK IT OUT.              P.S. it's served with hand-cut Yukon Gold potatoes.

For those of you who know me well you know I hate fast-food restaurants and burger chains with a passion because they take the art out of food and make it all about the money. I don't love burgers because they're $3.50 for 2. I love burgers because I like the combination of great bread, great meat and great toppings and if I have to pay $7 to be able to bite into something unprocessed, juicy, tender as hell and packed with mega-flavour then I'm down to do that. Big Smoke Burger, formerly known as Craft Burger is like crack in burger form. I won't say much else but if this is my favorite burger then it must be good.

I'm a Sri-Lankan Tamil guy. When I eat rice and curry it's with my hand (my East Indian peeps know what I'm talking about) and I was raised on curry so I'm definitely a flavour/spice/curry connoisseur. My absolute favourite Indian dish is butter chicken. It's rich, buttery, spicy with a hint of tomato and overall just an amazing culinary experience. When you think of India in Toronto it's either Little India or Gerrard St. and it's hard for me to choose which place has the best butter chicken. Dhaba and Amaya are awesome but I like Lahore Tikka House on Gerrard St. a little better. The place is a little seedy but in terms of flavour for a bargain this is the place to be. They've been around for a while so they know what they're doing and they get my seal of approval. If you decide to go please call me so I can tag along.

If I go to a place that has fish tacos on it's menu then you best believe that is exactly what I'm ordering. I go to St Louis Bar'n'Grill from time to time and although their fish tacos are very lack-luster I still order it EVERY time. An ex-girlfriend of mine and I were on a search for the best fish tacos in Toronto (after watching I Love you Man) and we happened across a restaurant called South of Temperance on Adelaide which blew my fucking mind. The equation for a fish taco is fish+crunch+tortilla=fish taco. Add grilled pineapple, jicama slaw, avocado salsa and hot sauce and you have, in my opinion, Toronto's best fish taco. South of temperance, I love you man.

Best jerk chicken in the city by a mile is from Albert's on St Clair W. For me, a good jerk chicken is spicy, salty, somewhat sweet, moist and most importantly it must be accompanied by rice and peas. You can seriously taste the love in this chicken by how deep the flavour is. Most jerk chicken will only have flavour in the skin and not really permeating the meat. At Albert's the flavour will punch you straight in yuh bloodclot mouth. Like every other caribbean restaurant it looks pretty run down and is in a weird part of town but it's the motherfucking shit man.

If you live(d) in Scarborough then you're automatically a Hakka food expert so it goes without saying that chili chicken is one of your favorite dishes on the planet. I've eaten at 6-7 different Hakka joints in my 26 years of life but 2 really stand out as the better ones in the city. One is Tangerine Asian Restaurant on Ellesmere and the other is Lucky Chinese on Lawrence.  Kim Kim, China Cottage, Chung Moi all suck balls compared to these 2 because of one simple thing : volume. When restaurants are busy they sell and replenish stock easily so the food is always fresh. If you're not busy, I'm not dining. Anyhow, chili chicken is spicy Chinese style chicken with Indian flare. The combination of the oriental and Indian spices and flavours have a way of surprising even the pickiest eaters (my sister). You'll enjoy this.


Remember ladies and gents, your bodies are fueled by food and drink like cars are fueled by oil and gas. Eat well, drink well and you shall live well. Fuck fast food.