Some of us are with people we truly care about, some of us settle for a desired set of circumstances, others seek out companionship out of fear of loneliness and the rest are single. I'm one of the single ones and have been for about a year now. I have a pretty cool view on relationships because I've been in a few, observed a few that have worked and a few that haven't. What makes me believe I have the inside scoop is my ability to see the outcome of situations based of patterns of behaviour and the overall compatibility of people based on nothing more than my own reasoning. I've coined many phrases and quotes in my time but none more relevant than "a subservient broad will get her controlling dude, the weak willed will find their strong, the assholes will get with the bitches - so to all the assholes and bitches I wish you good luck." I find that there's a lot of truth to this and you can tell in any 'good' relationship that the 2 people have dynamics that balance one another out. The bad relationships are a result of an imbalance in the dynamic between 2 people that can't be remedied by anything other than finding someone that better suits your style. In every situation there must be aggression and digression and it cannot always be the same person being the aggressor or the digressor or the dynamic just creates an unhealthy living situation. I'll give you an example of a couple that really work but I'll change their names for obvious reasons. The man, let's call him Shigadoo, is a very strong-willed person, somewhat successful with the potential to do great things if the right set of circumstances come along. The female, let's call her Euphegeniah, is not quite as strong willed but she has a very strong sense of self and is on her own path to success. What makes this couple even better is that in certain situations Shigadoo is the boss and Euphegeniah will gracefully accept that she is less adept when it comes to that and in others she's the boss and he concedes but they clearly have a mutual respect and a great knowledge of each other's strengths and weaknesses. Together they can tackle pretty much anything and they do it with very little friction between them in an almost symbiotic manner. This couple can create an amazing future and an amazing legacy. Now I'll give you an example of a failed relationship and the factors that got them there. Let's use me as an example so it can be easier for me to explain. I was once in a relationship with a very strong-willed female who was ambitious by nature and always straight to the point. Here I was as an equally strong-willed, ambitious, straight to the point kind of guy and our dynamic clashed horribly. On one hand the physical aspect of the relationship was great because we were both go-getters but when it came to agreeing on even the smallest things we couldn't. There would be weeks of drama with only days of peace and no matter what anyone says you can't just 'make it work' when it can't be fixed. I admit I'm not the easiest person to get along with because my personality is somewhat overbearing but I'm not a complete asshole either. Same with her. I now know the exact kind of guy she needs and I have an idea of the type of girl I need as well. She needs a person to play the support role and so do I.
Dudes worry too much about how many guys a girl slept with when that does not make her any less fertile than she was before so you all need to stop being hung up on shit like that. Girls, same goes for you. Who cares how many girls your man slept with before he met you. The past is the past because it's not now and it's not the future. Being hung up on dumb shit makes you crazy and pathetic. Girls, if you don't like being treated like shit PLEASE don't go out with dudes that treat you like shit because it'll be your own fault when he takes you out, makes you pay then slaps you up for looking at another dude. Dudes, if she seems like a stage 5 clinger and you like to party then don't get with her because she'll fuck up your flex. She wants a dude that pays attention to ONLY her. We need to start filtering the assholes and bitches we talk to and date so that the ones we meet can be supplemental to all of our strengths and weaknesses. As for arranged marriages, they work for the most part because men in those cultures are the controller and the females are subservient. We live in motherfucking Canada though so this shit doesn't happen on the regular and as the voice of Tamil 20 somethings in Toronto I need to let that be known. Women please for the love of God stop going out with dudes who chop you on facebook and get out into the real world for real men. Men, it isn't just about the booty and the titties. This broad should motivate you to be a better man, be good at the things that you're not and she has to know how to tie a tie. Regardless of the gender there should be 2 constants in any relationship for there to be a legitimate chance at awesomeness. #1 being this person should not kick you while you're down but instead lift you up and help you get a grip of things. #2 is this person should never bring you down when you're up and instead should support you, praise you and motivate you to keep trudging on. If the goal of every couple in the world was to create a legacy then we'd have amazing relationships and a very low divorce rate. When the goals start becoming things that neither can control then shit gets tricky and people get frustrated. Too many relationships fail when the sparks die, the looks fade and all you're left with is the real person that you didn't get to know because you were too busy worrying about the things that don't matter. Conversation is huge because when you're sitting in your rocking chair at the age of 80 across from your aged wife, the spark is gone, your libido is shot to hell you're still going to need companionship, a warm smile and memories that can last you the rest of your days. Goals matter because, without them, the excitement of the next day will become nothing but dull, pointless nonsense. Intimacy is important because it'll help you live happy, live longer and live stronger. With that I'm done with this post but I hope you got what I was trying to say and I wish you all the happiness that the world has to offer.
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